With every action we carry out, every capability we develop,
we also develop self-confidence which makes us capable of
detachment. Detachment means that one can independently
establish relationships, separate from partner and turn to a
new partner or the same partner again . The capacity of
detachment is here synonymous with personal freedom.
       When one has said something politely and honestly to
the partner and has justified it sufficiently, one still needs to
give him time to take decision. The right of decision cannot
be taken away from him. He takes the decision himself, today,
tomorrow, perhaps in the near future. Detachment is not
possible for everybody at a definite point of time; one many
need more closeness, the other more space.
        A person who knows only his partner or his parents has
less possibility of getting away from them. sometimes it does
not happen before their death. The capacity of detachment
can be acquired like any other capability.
    If the capacity of detachment is immediately suppressed by
the attachment or distinction of the reference persons. On the
other hand, detachment is sometimes explosive and is
synonymous with termination of the relationship.
      The detachment of a person from a partner or a group
does not necessarily mean termination of the relationship, but
rather indicates a restructuring, revaluation and further
development of the relationship. When someone detaches
himself, he needs not only the readiness for detachment
by the reference person, but also an appropriate closeness and
space.www.ramkhedia.com
       Step wise detachment: Leave the child alone sometimes;
let him solve problems independently; allow him to visit
others and invite others over; show him closeness so that he
gains self-confidence ; give him space so that he can act
independently and get away from the social circle of the
parents; give him jobs to do (send him sopping; let him sort
out his things in his own way ); show him acceptable forms
of detachment as examples. For instance, as parents, leave
the child with acquaintances occasionally, even overnight. Do
something independent of the partner to ensure a certain level
of detachment .
     No partnership, no social relationship lasts for ever. one
can separate spatially, socially and physically. we must also
separate physically after death and this is programmed in our
life. Death is also a form of detachment and requires a
preparation, just like any other form of detachment and any
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